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Welcome! I’m Rebecca Weller.

Bestselling author, coach, and founder of Sexy Sobriety, I’m deeply passionate about
helping people live an alcohol-free life full
of freedom and joy.

Based in sunny Western Australia, my happiest days are spent writing new books and sharing stories with the world. I’m so glad you’re here!

Welcome! I’m Rebecca Weller.

Bestselling author, coach, and founder of
Sexy Sobriety, I’m deeply passionate about helping people live an alcohol-free life full of freedom and joy.

Based in sunny Western Australia, my happiest days are spent writing new books and sharing stories with the world. I’m so glad you’re here!

Rebecca Weller Blog

When will I stop craving alcohol?

When will I stop craving alcohol?

10 Ways to Conquer Sugar Cravings

10 Ways to Conquer Sugar Cravings

3 Magical Mindset Shifts for Early Sobriety

3 Magical Mindset Shifts for Early Sobriety

3 Things I’d Tell Myself Before I Stopped Drinking

3 Things I’d Tell Myself Before I Stopped Drinking

Healing from Long-COVID

Healing from Long-COVID

5 Uplifting Conversations for International Women’s Day

5 Uplifting Conversations for International Women’s Day

2 Ways to Reframe Failure in Sobriety

2 Ways to Reframe Failure in Sobriety

4 Things I Learned from Getting Skin Cancer

4 Things I Learned from Getting Skin Cancer

3 Loving Mantras for Early Sobriety

3 Loving Mantras for Early Sobriety

3 Simple Strategies for Self-Love in Sobriety

3 Simple Strategies for Self-Love in Sobriety

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Growing up, I often heard, "You’re too sensitive

Growing up, I often heard, "You’re too sensitive!” To be honest, I’d kind of forgotten about that… until I stopped drinking. ⁠
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Suddenly I emerged from my hazy cocoon and felt EVERYTHING. Every natural disaster; every injustice; every plight. ⁠
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So many women I’ve had the honour of helping have also rediscovered this sensitivity within themselves. Maybe you’re feeling it too. ⁠
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For years I wanted to drink this sensitivity away; to numb the harsh realities of a WORLD that felt “too much”. Ironically, it was sobriety that showed me this sensitivity is actually a beautiful gift. ⁠
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Think about it. Often the greatest paintings, music, books and films in the world came about because their artist was “too sensitive”. ⁠
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Because they had the ability to tap into deeper emotions others couldn’t access. Because they felt an ache deep in their bones and channelled those emotions into something that makes the world more beautiful - that helps others to understand and process their OWN emotions; that signals understanding, love, and hope. ⁠
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All those years I was so desperate to numb myself to the intensity of life, I was in fact doing myself a great disservice. As Brené Brown so wisely said: ⁠
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“We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.” ⁠
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I know that you often hear and see things that open a raw ache in your soul. But this beautiful ability allows you to think more deeply. To have important conversations. To feel empathy and more strongly connect with and help others. To tap into your light and shine it brightly for yourself and everyone around you. ⁠
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Most importantly, the capacity to feel negative emotions also allows you space to feel true and utter JOY. ⁠
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Whatever you’re going through right now, I promise, alcohol won’t help. Lean into your emotions. They’re leading you somewhere. They’re crucial messengers on your journey of growth and evolution. ⁠
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When you feel things, you can change things. You can love and connect more deeply. You open the door to more LIFE. ⁠
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Your sensitivity is your strength. ❤️ ⁠
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P.S. See also: Chapter 4 of @Chameleon.Book 😉 AUDIOBOOK COMING SOON! 🥰🎉

When you think about it, isn't it pretty wild that

When you think about it, isn't it pretty wild that we still feel peer pressure past the age of sixteen? I mean, how many things do we do just to try to fit in with people we may not even like to begin with? ⁠
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When I first embarked on my original sobriety experiment, this was the one thing that scared me witless. ⁠
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What would people SAY? Would I still be invited anywhere? How on earth would I socialise without a drink in my hand? ⁠
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The times I was closest to giving up my hard-won sober status were the times I saw groups of friends on Facebook going to big, boozy events together. ⁠
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I didn’t want to drink, but apparently I still desperately wanted to fit in. I was willing to trade what I truly wanted (to live my life authentically alcohol-free), simply to be the same as everyone else. ⁠
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I know I’m not alone in this. I hear from countless beautiful souls who worry about how they’ll continue to fit in with their current friendship circles when they stop drinking. Each message is filled with fear; each person more terrified than the last of being the odd one out.⁠
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It makes sense, really. As humans, we crave connection. We long to belong. ⁠
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We trick ourselves into believing we enjoy being radical individuals, when in actual fact, we’re often crippled by worries of what other people think; of being different, or of somehow standing out. ⁠
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It’s a fear well worth exploring within ourselves, because if we’re afraid of being different, we can be brilliantly adept at finding ways to sabotage ourselves and our intentions. ⁠
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We might ‘accidentally’ and expertly trip ourselves up so we can remain ‘safe’ in our current network of friends, family and peers. ⁠
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My third book, Chameleon (Confessions of a Former People-Pleaser!), explores the many tools we can use to free ourselves from the chains of people-pleasing, including healthy boundaries, conflict resolution, and communication skills. ⁠
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Because I wish that freedom for you, angel. All of it. Throughout your entire life.⁠
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You don’t have to abandon yourself in order to receive love from others. ⁠
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You don’t have to betray yourself in order to fit in.⁠
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You are enough, just as you are. ❤️ ⁠

Chameleon

Forget what everyone else is doing. This lane - th

Forget what everyone else is doing. This lane - this LIFE - is for you. It’s yours. ⁠⁠
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You’re far too unique to be compared to anyone else. You are YOU, and that is your superpower. ⁠⁠
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Give yourself the time, space, and energy to really get to know yourself again. Grant yourself that gift. ⁠⁠
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You are worthy of everything you dream of, and everything you want to try and experience in this life. ⁠⁠
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You are enough, exactly as you are. ⁠❤️⁠
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Read more in Chapter 16 of Chameleon. 📚 The Audiobook is COMING THIS MONTH! 🥰🎉 Order your copy at BexWeller.com/Books/⁠ ❤️⁠⁠
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@Chameleon.Book ⁠
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It’s funny. I always believed drinking brought m

It’s funny. I always believed drinking brought me closer to people. Every social event involves drinking, so it makes sense, right?⁠⁠
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But back when I socialised with a drink in my hand, there was always part of my mind that was preoccupied with thoughts of booze.⁠⁠
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Did I bring enough wine? Is it too soon to get another drink? Will anyone notice if I pour one more? What happens if we run out? ⁠⁠
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And more than that, the alcohol acted as a kind of ‘glass wall’ between me and my loved ones. Because, let’s face it, when you’ve both a little fuzzy, you’re not really connecting on the deepest level.⁠⁠
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The morning-after was often filled with anxiety and paranoia over things I may have said or done, or whether or not I upset anyone. I felt nauseas, and exhausted, and so OVER it all - not wanting to see my own reflection in the mirror; never mind see or speak to anyone else. ⁠⁠
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It just didn’t add up to the meaningful conversations or relationships I truly craved.⁠⁠
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Sobriety transforms relationships. Not all of them, mind you. But it opens up real space to allow for true connection - for good food, friends, and sunshine.⁠⁠
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It's hard to believe there was once a time when I didn't want ANY of these things on a Sunday - just my bed, a dark room, and water to soothe my hangover. ⁠⁠
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NOW it's is the trifecta of bliss. ⁠⁠❤️
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What adventures will you get up to this weekend? 🥰

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At the time I thought it was some kind of magic, b

At the time I thought it was some kind of magic, but now I realise it was probably my energy that changed as I approached them after that. ⁠
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I’d gotten the big picture clear in my mind; I’d remembered that our relationship was bigger than our squabble. ⁠
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We cared about each other. And because of that, somehow - whether in my energy or my facial expressions or my words - I was making room for them to apologise, or for us to reach a new level of understanding.⁠
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If you’re terrified to have a conversation in person, you could try writing notes first, or crafting a letter instead. As long as you communicate honestly and respectfully, it’s okay to use whichever method you’re most comfortable with. ⁠
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You don’t have to be vulnerable before you’re ready. But it’s true that every time we practice better communication skills in person, face-to-face, we get better at them, and our confidence grows. ⁠
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Which means we’re much more capable of communicating like a grown-up the next time the salsa hits the fan.⁠
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Believe me, I’m still learning and growing in these skills every day. It’s rarely easy, but it’s always worth it. Each time we’re assertive whilst also being kind, it gets that little bit easier. Every time we lead with love and resolve a dispute, we build our self-esteem and deepen the relationships we most care about. ⁠
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Conflict is a portal to a new level of trust and understanding in our relationships, and clear communication is the vehicle that can get us there. ❤️⁠
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Read more in Chapter 12 of Chameleon. 📚 The Audiobook is COMING THIS MONTH! 🥰🎉 Order your copy at BexWeller.com/Books/⁠ ❤️⁠

Eeep! Dom and I have been working our little heart

Eeep! Dom and I have been working our little hearts out in the studio lately and can’t wait to share this with you!

The Chameleon Audiobook is COMING THIS MONTH! 🥰🎉

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