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As we travelled back to Australia, I thought about all the ways this trip felt so different to any other I'd ever been on.⠀
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There was the hiking and cycling, of course (helloooo sore muscles I never even knew I had! 😄). This was definitely the most active I've ever been in another country.⠀
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There were the heavenly mornings, free of hangovers and full of adventure (I swear, that NEVER gets old!). ⠀
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And then there was our accommodation, and the total transparency I had with our AirBNB hosts. ⠀
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I loved the powerful feeling of being able to thank them after we'd checked out, knowing that I didn't make a nuisance of myself, annoy their neighbours, break anything that I'd forgotten about, or lose their keys.⠀
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It reminded me of just how much I was missing out on previously - all those years of drinking and thinking being a grown up was BORING.⠀
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People can trust me more now, but more importantly, I can trust myself more. ⠀
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And that, my friend, is the most delicious feeling in the world. ❤️ x⠀
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When Dom first suggested that we hire bikes and ride out to the countryside, my reaction was much the same as when he first suggested hiking - along the lines of:

Hint: it's not the alcohol itself. Go deeper. ⠀⠀
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Usually it's that we want to FEEL (or not feel!) a certain way. ⠀
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Loved, accepted, uplifted, relaxed, happy... ⠀⠀
If we become curious for long enough to investigate what it is we really want to feel, we can begin to soothe and nourish ourselves with the things we truly crave, in a healthy way.⠀⠀
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Really craving connection? Could you call a family member, or make a lunch date with a friend?⠀⠀
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Really craving relaxation? Could you meditate, go for a walk in nature, or run a bubble bath?⠀⠀
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Really craving joy? Could you embark on a new creative project or adventure?⠀⠀
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In other words, this knowledge can help us create an action plan that empowers us. We get to know ourselves and our needs better, move towards overcoming self-sabotage, and avoid transferring our cravings onto other unhealthy habits (hellooo, sugar / social media / retail therapy).⠀⠀
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It's a process that can take some practice (for sure!). But once we master it, we can use it for the rest of our lives to take better care of ourselves.⠀⠀
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So what are you really craving, hon? ❤x⠀⠀
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Today Dom and I celebrated the 5th anniversary of our final day in the corporate world - with a hike across a flippin’ MOUNTAIN in Norway! ⠀
Five years ago, both of these milestones would have been as mind-blowing a concept to me as they are now... and yet, here we are.⠀
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Every single day of these past 5 years has challenged me to grow and learn in more ways than I ever dreamed possible. Working for ourselves has been all at once awe-inspiring, overwhelming, and utterly terrifying. I felt so frustrated whenever I couldn't figure out why certain things didn't work or what the next step should be. ⠀
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It's only when I look back now that I can see why I needed to go through all of those experiences. The failures and setbacks were just as crucial to my personal development as the successes. ⠀
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I couldn't help people the way I am now, as the person I was 5 years ago. ⠀
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It was all necessary; every bit of it. ⠀
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My point is that good things / growth / change / sobriety - they all take TIME, hon. ⠀
I know; it’s so tempting to want to fast forward - to skip over all the messy, painful parts and get to the good stuff. ⠀
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But it's this slow, beautiful journey that changes us on the deepest level. ⠀
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Every challenging moment - every single time we feel like we're moving two steps forward and one step back - we're learning, growing, and becoming all we are meant to be. ⠀
Don't give up before the magic happens. I believe in you. ❤x⠀ ⠀

The ups, the downs, and the in-betweens. The re-starts, the backwards steps, and the do-overs. ⠀⠀ Every single step of it has helped us to know more now than we did yesterday. Every bit of it has helped us to grow and evolve in ways that we might not even be aware of yet.⠀⠀
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By tomorrow we'll have grown even more.⠀⠀
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There is no such thing as failure, angel. Everything is a learning experience, and everything is progress. ❤x⠀⠀
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Holy moly, WE DID IT! Hours of crazy, rocky terrain to climb to the top - and my very first ever real hike! 👊

My muscles are aching like mad - it was so much harder than I thought it would be - but also infinitely more rewarding. And HECK YES, I’m feeling like a total badass right now, because this kind of active living is something I never thought I could do, or be.
The cool thing about trying new things is that every time we challenge ourselves and succeed, we push the boundaries of what we believed was possible. We learn, grow, and gain more confidence and faith that we can handle the next hard thing.
And here’s the best bit. There truly is no such thing as failure. Every single experience teaches us something we may not have even known we needed to learn. It changes us in ways we can’t even imagine yet.

So go ahead and try, ladylove. Give it your best shot. You have absolutely everything in the world to gain. ❤️x

The thing about drinking is that we can often forget what on Earth we used to enjoy doing, before wine came along!⠀
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Think about it now. What are 10 things that make you happy? Small things that you can do for yourself at any time?⠀
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Maybe your list might include things like: curling up in your favourite chair with a good book; painting your toenails; going for a long walk in the fresh air and sunshine; seeing a fun movie at the cinema with a good friend; dancing around the house to your favourite song; taking a long bubble bath; putting fresh sheets on your bed, switching off your alarm, and blissfully sleeping in.⠀
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Make yourself a list, and stick it to your wall or into your day planner. Then pick one item from the list to do every single day (or TWO whenever you feel extra crappy). ⠀
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Remind yourself how good it feels when you're KIND to yourself. ⠀
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Because Louise Hay was right - loving ourselves really can - and does - work miracles in our lives. ❤x⠀
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Hej from Copenhagen! 😊🇩🇰 Dom and I just landed and couldn’t wait to hit the sunny streets of Denmark. Despite being jetlagged as hell, we’re bursting with excitement to record the next season of The Adventure Series for you! ✈️ On the agenda this season? The Danish concept of ‘hygge’ (cosiness and human relationships), the Norwegian philosophy of ‘friluftsliv’ (enchantment with the great outdoors), plus what hiking can teach us about big lifestyle changes (like sobriety!), and exactly what goes down at a yoga festival hosted by one of the happiest nations on Earth.
Here we go! 👊😊❤️x

Happy weekend, beautiful! In the mood for something a little more exotic tonight? How about a batch of Fresh Italian Soda? ⠀⠀
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For 2 tall glasses: divide the juice of 2 large blood oranges evenly between two glasses. Slowly top the glasses up with sparkling water. Stir in a little honey or rice malt syrup if you like it sweeter (totally optional!), and garnish with fresh basil leaves. ⠀⠀
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Enjoy! x ⠀⠀
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SexySobriety.com ❤⠀
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Remember the opening scene from #AHappierHour, when @ModByDom and I spontaneously decided to resign from our corporate jobs, on the very same day?!⠀⠀
That day was 5 years ago today.⠀⠀
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My hand was shaking as I carried my resignation letter across the office to my boss: my heart pounding out of my chest; a 2-day hangover reverberating through my skull; and a drinking habit that threatened to knock me off my axis for good.⠀⠀
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If you'd told me then that this crazy, fateful day would lead me to not only heal my own relationship with alcohol, but to help thousands of women from around the world to do the same, I wouldn't have believed a word you said. ⠀⠀
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And yet, here we are.⠀⠀
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So much can change in a single moment. Unfathomable leaps can take place in 5 years. ⠀
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Whatever dream you hold in your heart - whether it has to do with your wellness, creativity, relationships, or sobriety - five years from now, you'll wish you started today. ⠀
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Just begin, beautiful. You can do this. ❤ x ⠀
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Holy moly, it's official! Today #AHappierHour turns two years old! Two whole years! ⠀⠀
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I remember exactly what it felt like to hold the very first copy (in this photo) in my hot little hands. Just as I remember what it felt like to celebrate two whole years sober. ⠀⠀
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It got me thinking about the process behind these milestones. ⠀⠀
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The truth is that sitting alone in a room, tap-tap-tapping away for months on end is challenging enough, but when it comes to writing a memoir - facing your former self and owning your past (mistakes, heartbreak, and all) - it becomes even more confronting. Not to mention the fact that I struggled to believe I would actually follow through and finish it.⠀⠀
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See, I didn't have a lot of experience with finishing things. All those goals and dreams I talked about after 5 drinks? It was easier to just laugh them off in the morning as impossible dreams rather than actually knuckle down, get to work, and make them come true.⠀⠀
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One of the reasons I launched myself into sobriety back in 2014 was because I couldn't think of a single example of anything that I’d truly poured my heart and soul into. I was so sick of half-assing life. I wanted to prove to myself that I could do hard things and actually finish them. I wanted to explore my potential and find out - for once and for all - what I was really made of. ⠀⠀
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Yup, it was tough. And it can be easy to want to quit the minute it gets hard. But that feeling - of not only celebrating a milestone you worked so hard for, but of realising the process itself has changed you on a deep and fundamental level - that feeling is EVERYTHING.⠀⠀
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It's like climbing a mountain, right? As you get closer to the top, you feel more exhausted. You've been at it for so long now. You wonder if it's worth it; if maybe you've come far enough. It's harder to breathe; harder to remember why you actually wanted it in the first place. ⠀⠀
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And then - finally - you climb those final steps and reach the top. And the view is glorious. ⠀⠀
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Keep going, hon! You can do hard things. You can follow through. You're stronger than you know. ❤x⠀⠀
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Happy mid-week, gorgeous! With a big week of milestones coming up, we're starting the celebrations early with these Blueberry Lemon elixirs - because sometimes the simplest things are the best. ;)⠀
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I love making this one fresh from the farmers market with plump, juicy blueberries. To keep it super-simple and refreshing (like this pic), just pop a few frozen blueberries + a fresh squeeze of lemon juice into a glass with ice, and top with sparkling mineral/soda water. ⠀⠀
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Enjoy! x⠀⠀
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SexySobriety.com ❤⠀
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I was about thirteen years old the first time I confided to my best friend,

“Rule of thumb: the more important a call or action is to our soul's evolution, the more Resistance we will feel towards pursuing it.” ~ Steven Pressfield⠀
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The real magic happens outside our comfort zones, beautiful. ❤x ⠀
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I finally got my butt back into the writers seat this week, after frankly, MONTHS of planning, thinking, and talking about it (aka. Resistance; aka. Procrastination). ⠀
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And as challenging as it is to begin work on a new book (heck, to start ANYTHING new) it also feels really, really good. ⠀
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Because the truth is that passion projects are a huge part of creating a happy, healthy lifestyle that lights us up from within.⠀
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As Dr. Gabor Mate, M.D. put it so well: “Addiction is centrifugal. It sucks energy from you, creating a vacuum of inertia. A passion energizes you and enriches your relationships. It empowers you and gives strength to others. Passion creates, addiction consumes.”. ⠀ ⠀
Not sure where to start? Try a ton of new and different things! ⠀
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What do you like? What do you enjoy doing? Maybe you're excited by the idea of further studies, a new career path, fitness, or new friendships. Maybe it's art, music, hobbies, travel, or adventure.⠀
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Sobriety gives us so much time and energy in which to explore. So go ahead - get wild, messy and creative. Follow your curiosity. Let your heart lead the way. ⠀
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It just might lead you further back to the real you. ❤x⠀
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Loving this gorgeous stack from @thesoberglow, and tickled pink to see #AHappierHour in there amongst so many powerful books that helped me too. ⠀
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What are you reading, hon? ❤x ⠀
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Back when I was in the corporate world, we were encouraged to take a ‘Defensive Driving’ course that involved performing a variety of manoeuvres on a race track.⠀⠀
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In one of the exercises, we were instructed to speed up and then slam on the brakes and avoid hitting a particular safety cone. ⠀⠀
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Despite our best efforts, we all hit that cone. ⠀⠀
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We tried the activity again, but this time, rather than focusing on the cone, we were instructed to look for a safe place to steer the car. Same distance, same speed, same brakes; just a different intention and focus.⠀⠀
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We were stunned. Every single one of us avoided the cone. ⠀⠀
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Our instructor explained that if something or someone jumps out in front of us, the worst thing we can do is look straight at it as we’re trying to avoid it. ⠀⠀
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We need to focus on where we WANT to go, rather than where we DON'T want to go. ⠀⠀
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The lesson was powerful and I often find myself telling clients about it. Time and again, I notice that when we focus on our fears, we tend to smash into them. And if we’re not focusing on where we really want to go, how can we expect to get there?⠀⠀
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Visualisation is key.⠀⠀
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There’s a great reason that top athletes and entrepreneurs use this tool for success - because it works! ⠀⠀
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When it comes to drinking, how many times did you give yourself a lecture about not making a fool of yourself this time, or not letting the night get too messy… only to find that’s exactly where you ended up?⠀⠀
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Too many to count? Me too.⠀⠀
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So how can we use visualisation to steer ourselves in the direction we actually want to go? What are some practical ways we can harness the power of visualisation?⠀⠀
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I’ve learnt 6 simple and life-changing ways that I'm so excited to share. Members, grab your journal and join me in the program for our live call this Tuesday, beautiful. I can't wait to dive into this topic with you!⠀x⠀
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SexySobriety.com ❤⠀
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Back when I decided to stop drinking, I was terrified. I truly believed that sobriety equalled a prison of misery and boredom. What a revelation to discover that it's exactly the opposite.⠀ ⠀⠀
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Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear, beautiful. What will you do with your one precious life? ❤️ x⠀

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