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Self care isn't always about massages and bath bubbles. Sometimes it's just heading somewhere new to get a bit of breathing space and a fresh perspective.
How are you looking after yourself today, hon? ❤️x

One of the affirmations on my Louise Hay calendar this week was: 'I balance my life between work, rest and play - they all get equal time'. And I realised I don't tend to think of these as 3 separate categories. In my mind, there's usually just working my butt off, or downtime.
It got me thinking about an article I read once. It said most adults find the question: 'What do you do for fun?' one of the most difficult to answer. Is it any wonder then, that we put booze on a pedestal as the one and only magic key to adult 'fun'? Never mind all the crap that comes with drinking - if we don't know any other way to play, we give our power away to alcohol.
My love and I have a geeky nostalgia for Lego (not to mention, a quiet respect for the tenacity required to build one of these things - 102 hours for Mona here!), so when I saw this exhibition was coming to town, I jumped right onto tickets. So this is me today, ladylove. Getting my play on! 😄
What do you do for fun? ❤️x

Happy Friday, gorgeous! It's well and truly winter in Perth today, but we've got the heater cranking and we're celebrating with deliciously refreshing Watermelon Elixirs. Because, why not!⠀😄👌
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Blend 300ml coconut water + 2 cups frozen watermelon pieces + a splash of sweetener (like pure maple syrup, raw honey, or agave nectar - completely optional) + juice of half a lime, until smooth.
If you’re not using a Vitamix or high-powered blender, you might need to defrost the watermelon a little first, because it tends to freeze into super-hard blocks. Divide between two glasses, garnish, and enjoy! x⠀
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Taking healthy risks, and spiritual growth… Authentic confidence, and being open and present for new opportunities…. OH, how I pined for all of these while I was still drinking. And yet, it was so hard to let go of my drinking identity. I was terrified.⠀
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What if I took away the drink and there was nothing left? Just a grey personality and a grey existence stretching out in front of me until the end of eternity…?⠀
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I can’t even begin to tell you how relieved I was to discover that was all just a big, old crock.⠀
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@MichelleMahlman has been on an incredible journey in her relationship with alcohol. Like me, she once found it difficult to let go of her party girl identity. But despite the fear, she began the process of healing herself. Now glowing and happy, she lives the deliciously deep life she always dreamed of. Better yet, she’s helping to empower other women to do the same…⠀ ⠀
“I feel like I’ve really gotten in touch with the truth of who I am. And for whatever reason…, drinking alcohol doesn’t serve my highest and best. And that’s kinda’ what I live on today: that I have a choice, and I’m not powerless over alcohol. I am powerful over making the best decision for myself, and that is to stay sober…⠀ ⠀
And so many beautiful things have come into fruition for me in the past few years because of having that acceptance, and honouring it. You know, like really owning it this time. I’m proud to announce to people that I’m sober; that I don’t drink. That I have a life that’s very rich in meaningful relationships, and physical movement, and yoga, and spiritual practice, and connecting with the world in a way that I never have before. And I think that’s really just from having this openness and allowing this path to unfold for me.”⠀
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In coaching hundreds of women from around the world, one truth shines bright and clear: that every fulfilling endeavour and relationship in our lives must first start with self-love. Love first, angel-face. Always. x ⠀
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Happy Sunday Funday, gorgeous! What adventures will you get up to today? x⠀
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$I remember when I'd to eat a bag of Starburst Snakes in the morning and call it breakfast. 🙈 These days, this heavenly smoothie bowl is much more my style. ❤️ ⠀ ⠀ Happy, healthy, Self-care Saturday, gorgeous. How are you looking after yourself today? x ⠀ ⠀ SexySobriety.com ❤️ {pic via @elsas_wholesomelife 💋}$

Happy almost-weekend, gorgeous! I presented a fun webinar with Soberistas UK this week, called Loving Your Sober Holiday. It got me thinking about socialising sober - not only on our holidays, but at events. Because, let's face it - whatever time of the year we choose to start our alcohol-free 'experiment', there are going to be upcoming holidays and events to navigate.⠀
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If you've read my book, you'll know I went to a LOT of big events in my first 30 days sober. Despite wanting to hide under the bedcovers until it was all over, I had a work function, a family holiday, my 39th birthday, a hens party, and a wedding cocktail party to attend. Phew! ⠀
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For the better part of two decades, I'd firmly believed I was extroverted and loved to socialise. Only to discover that, with the alcohol removed, I reverted straight back to my shy, awkward, 16-year-old self. I felt completely unsure of myself and my place in the world. I mean, if I wasn’t the woman always first in line at the bar, ordering drinks for everyone and helping them have a good time... who was I? ⠀
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Although it felt incredibly challenging at the time, it taught me some powerful lessons about navigating events alcohol-free, including the essential items to take with you; what to do before, during, and after each one; and a fun mindset shift to ensure your sense of humour (and sanity!) remain firmly intact. ⠀
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Grab your journal and join me live for our live coaching call on Tuesday, beautiful. I can't wait to dive into this topic with you! x ⠀
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You are not your past, beautiful. Every single moment is a chance to start again. Ready to write a whole new story? x ⠀
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Remember when you were little, how time and the rest of the world would fall away when you were creating? ⠀

You were completely absorbed in the task at hand - whether it was playing in the garden, painting, colouring-in, or building Lego houses. Your creativity was self-expression directly from the soul. ⠀
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Afterwards you felt fulfilled, peaceful, balanced and whole. The world was a magical place, full of joy, possibility and wonder.⠀
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Often we can find find ourselves in destructive patterns because we crave this sort of connection and creativity, without even knowing it.⠀
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Today, take a time-out from your everyday responsibilities, embrace your inner child, and do something just for fun!⠀ Write, draw, paint, scrapbook, take beautiful photos, try a new recipe, walk or drive a different route, sing to your pet, plan a themed dinner party, or play an instrument. Organise a ‘crafternoon’ with friends or family. Make vision boards, or dream catchers, or prepare a meal together. How does it make you feel, hon? x⠀
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In one of our recent live group coaching calls (which turned into an incredible discussion), one of our gorgeous #SexySobriety Members asked about my early days of sobriety. She wanted to know whether I ever wobbled at the start of my sobriety journey, and how I managed those wobbles. ⠀
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The truth is, I wobbled a LOT! And I used every tool in my sober toolbox – every tool I teach in Sexy Sobriety – to get through those darkest moments, so I could finally reach the light. ⠀
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In particular, one of the most powerful things I did, was devote myself to learning and practising the art of self-care. I gave myself permission to feel my emotions (even when it was scary), to rest more, and to avoid people or places that triggered me (even if that meant backing out of events or declining invitations). ⠀
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I learned to say NO to anything and anyone that didn’t feel like a HELL YES. ⠀
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I made daily self-care rituals (like time to journal or read my favourite books, walks in the sunshine, and bubble baths) non-negotiable, and I gifted myself these treats every single day while affirming: “this is your treat for remaining sober”. ⠀
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I also practiced self-kindness every day, often speaking to myself like I would to a small child who felt lost, scared, or alone. ⠀
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At its core, I learnt to be my own best friend, and to transfer my love of drinking to a love of myself. ⠀
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Because love is always the answer, beautiful. Every. Single. Time. x ⠀
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$Detoxing? That takes a LOT of energy, hon. Give yourself permission to go to bed early or take naps if you need to. Above all, be patient and kind with yourself, and that beautiful body of yours. And catch up on those Z's, ladylove! x ⠀ ⠀ SexySobriety.com ❤️ {pic via @hutch_official 💋}$

Happy weekend, beautiful! These Lavender Lemonade Elixirs are perfect for cozy nights in - the lavender can help you feel blissfully relaxed. ⠀
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Place 1 heaped teaspoon, loose-leaf, dried lavender tea leaves + 1 tsp sweetener (optional) into a mug. Add 1/4 cup boiling water. Allow to steep and cool for 15 minutes or so.⠀
Divide 1/4 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice between two glasses. Using a strainer to catch the lavender, pour tea into the glasses. Add ice cubes, and top up with sparkling mineral water. Enjoy! x⠀
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SO much fun hanging with the gorgeously inspiring #TarynBrumfitt yesterday!
Taryn's the powerhouse behind the @bodyimagemovement - her documentary, #Embrace, having touched the hearts of millions of women around the globe.
Taryn's story of embarking on a journey to attain the 'perfect' body, believing it would make her happy - only to find that it didn't - reminded me how often we chase a goal or object outside of ourselves, believing it's the answer. That once we finally get that thing (the perfect body/dress/partner/job/bank balance), THEN we'll be happy.
The truth is, happiness is an inside job. Nothing outside of us will make us happy if we don't first heal our relationship with ourselves. Look inside, beautiful. Open your heart to the truth. Become your own best friend and biggest cheerleader. You've got this. ❤️x

I chuckle sometimes when I remember how terrified I was of sobriety because I was sure it would be B-O-R-I-N-G.⠀
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It would feel like everyday’s a weekday! How would I blow off steam? How would I have fun?⠀
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In reality, drinking kept me firmly trapped inside a bottle-shaped cage of my own making.⠀
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Angela Raspass kissed farewell to drinking more than 9 years ago and has never looked back. Like me - and so many incredible women before us - she soon discovered that life only gets bigger and bolder on the other side. Now fearless and free, she empowers other women to create whole-hearted businesses and lives…⠀ ⠀
“Was I afraid? I was terrified! Because I had numbed [myself]. I’d celebrated with alcohol, I’d commiserated with alcohol, I’d numbed my fear with alcohol. There were so many emotions that I’d pushed down and suddenly my armour was gone…⠀ ⠀
[My relationships] got a lot more honest. My relationship with my husband improved enormously. With my children, my patience with them and my emotional presence with them is enormously increased.⠀ ⠀
I’m much more ME now. I’m becoming the person I was always meant to be.”⠀
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$What do you usually think to yourself, when you spot your reflection in the mirror, hon? Do you have positive thoughts, filled with love? Or negative thoughts, filled with criticism?⠀ ⠀ In other words: are you your own best friend – or your own worst enemy?⠀ ⠀ Our thoughts create our reality. Master our mind, master our life.⠀ ⠀ But that's easier said than done, right? Like anything worthwhile, this takes practice and devotion. Repeating positive affirmations each time we glance in the mirror can go an incredibly long way towards healing our spirits and self-worth.⠀ ⠀ So what on Earth do we say? Try these on for starters:⠀ ⠀ “I love you.”⠀ “DAMN girl, you're funny / clever / creative!”⠀ “I’m so proud of you.”⠀ ⠀ Or if you prefer the first-person:⠀ ⠀ “I’m a kick-ass, sober, mega-babe!”⠀ “I love being in the driver's seat of my life.”⠀ “All my dreams are coming true.”⠀ ⠀ As the Goddess of Affirmations, Louise Hay, says: “That which we constantly affirm becomes true for us.” ⠀ ⠀ SexySobriety.com ❤️ {pic via @theeverygirl_ 💋}$

On a mini hike with my love yesterday, I was having a very serious talk with him about taking life too seriously and needing to have more fun. Yup, that's right - I got serious about fun. And the irony didn't even register.
See, there's a part of me that loves to do this - a mini nutcase that loves to try to control things and make everything organised and perfect, in order to distract me from the fear of uncertainty. But it also distracts me from the perfect, present moment.
It got me thinking about a Kyle Cease + @LewisHowes podcast I listened to earlier this week. Kyle said something like,

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