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Remember the opening scene from #AHappierHour, when @ModByDom and I spontaneously decided to resign from our corporate jobs, on the very same day?!⠀⠀
That day was 5 years ago today.⠀⠀
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My hand was shaking as I carried my resignation letter across the office to my boss: my heart pounding out of my chest; a 2-day hangover reverberating through my skull; and a drinking habit that threatened to knock me off my axis for good.⠀⠀
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If you'd told me then that this crazy, fateful day would lead me to not only heal my own relationship with alcohol, but to help thousands of women from around the world to do the same, I wouldn't have believed a word you said. ⠀⠀
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And yet, here we are.⠀⠀
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So much can change in a single moment. Unfathomable leaps can take place in 5 years. ⠀
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Whatever dream you hold in your heart - whether it has to do with your wellness, creativity, relationships, or sobriety - five years from now, you'll wish you started today. ⠀
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Just begin, beautiful. You can do this. ❤ x ⠀
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Holy moly, it's official! Today #AHappierHour turns two years old! Two whole years! ⠀⠀
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I remember exactly what it felt like to hold the very first copy (in this photo) in my hot little hands. Just as I remember what it felt like to celebrate two whole years sober. ⠀⠀
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It got me thinking about the process behind these milestones. ⠀⠀
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The truth is that sitting alone in a room, tap-tap-tapping away for months on end is challenging enough, but when it comes to writing a memoir - facing your former self and owning your past (mistakes, heartbreak, and all) - it becomes even more confronting. Not to mention the fact that I struggled to believe I would actually follow through and finish it.⠀⠀
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See, I didn't have a lot of experience with finishing things. All those goals and dreams I talked about after 5 drinks? It was easier to just laugh them off in the morning as impossible dreams rather than actually knuckle down, get to work, and make them come true.⠀⠀
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One of the reasons I launched myself into sobriety back in 2014 was because I couldn't think of a single example of anything that I’d truly poured my heart and soul into. I was so sick of half-assing life. I wanted to prove to myself that I could do hard things and actually finish them. I wanted to explore my potential and find out - for once and for all - what I was really made of. ⠀⠀
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Yup, it was tough. And it can be easy to want to quit the minute it gets hard. But that feeling - of not only celebrating a milestone you worked so hard for, but of realising the process itself has changed you on a deep and fundamental level - that feeling is EVERYTHING.⠀⠀
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It's like climbing a mountain, right? As you get closer to the top, you feel more exhausted. You've been at it for so long now. You wonder if it's worth it; if maybe you've come far enough. It's harder to breathe; harder to remember why you actually wanted it in the first place. ⠀⠀
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And then - finally - you climb those final steps and reach the top. And the view is glorious. ⠀⠀
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Keep going, hon! You can do hard things. You can follow through. You're stronger than you know. ❤x⠀⠀
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Happy mid-week, gorgeous! With a big week of milestones coming up, we're starting the celebrations early with these Blueberry Lemon elixirs - because sometimes the simplest things are the best. ;)⠀
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I love making this one fresh from the farmers market with plump, juicy blueberries. To keep it super-simple and refreshing (like this pic), just pop a few frozen blueberries + a fresh squeeze of lemon juice into a glass with ice, and top with sparkling mineral/soda water. ⠀⠀
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Enjoy! x⠀⠀
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I was about thirteen years old the first time I confided to my best friend,

“Rule of thumb: the more important a call or action is to our soul's evolution, the more Resistance we will feel towards pursuing it.” ~ Steven Pressfield⠀
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The real magic happens outside our comfort zones, beautiful. ❤x ⠀
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I finally got my butt back into the writers seat this week, after frankly, MONTHS of planning, thinking, and talking about it (aka. Resistance; aka. Procrastination). ⠀
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And as challenging as it is to begin work on a new book (heck, to start ANYTHING new) it also feels really, really good. ⠀
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Because the truth is that passion projects are a huge part of creating a happy, healthy lifestyle that lights us up from within.⠀
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As Dr. Gabor Mate, M.D. put it so well: “Addiction is centrifugal. It sucks energy from you, creating a vacuum of inertia. A passion energizes you and enriches your relationships. It empowers you and gives strength to others. Passion creates, addiction consumes.”. ⠀ ⠀
Not sure where to start? Try a ton of new and different things! ⠀
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What do you like? What do you enjoy doing? Maybe you're excited by the idea of further studies, a new career path, fitness, or new friendships. Maybe it's art, music, hobbies, travel, or adventure.⠀
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Sobriety gives us so much time and energy in which to explore. So go ahead - get wild, messy and creative. Follow your curiosity. Let your heart lead the way. ⠀
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It just might lead you further back to the real you. ❤x⠀
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Loving this gorgeous stack from @thesoberglow, and tickled pink to see #AHappierHour in there amongst so many powerful books that helped me too. ⠀
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What are you reading, hon? ❤x ⠀
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Back when I was in the corporate world, we were encouraged to take a ‘Defensive Driving’ course that involved performing a variety of manoeuvres on a race track.⠀⠀
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In one of the exercises, we were instructed to speed up and then slam on the brakes and avoid hitting a particular safety cone. ⠀⠀
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Despite our best efforts, we all hit that cone. ⠀⠀
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We tried the activity again, but this time, rather than focusing on the cone, we were instructed to look for a safe place to steer the car. Same distance, same speed, same brakes; just a different intention and focus.⠀⠀
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We were stunned. Every single one of us avoided the cone. ⠀⠀
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Our instructor explained that if something or someone jumps out in front of us, the worst thing we can do is look straight at it as we’re trying to avoid it. ⠀⠀
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We need to focus on where we WANT to go, rather than where we DON'T want to go. ⠀⠀
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The lesson was powerful and I often find myself telling clients about it. Time and again, I notice that when we focus on our fears, we tend to smash into them. And if we’re not focusing on where we really want to go, how can we expect to get there?⠀⠀
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Visualisation is key.⠀⠀
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There’s a great reason that top athletes and entrepreneurs use this tool for success - because it works! ⠀⠀
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When it comes to drinking, how many times did you give yourself a lecture about not making a fool of yourself this time, or not letting the night get too messy… only to find that’s exactly where you ended up?⠀⠀
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Too many to count? Me too.⠀⠀
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So how can we use visualisation to steer ourselves in the direction we actually want to go? What are some practical ways we can harness the power of visualisation?⠀⠀
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I’ve learnt 6 simple and life-changing ways that I'm so excited to share. Members, grab your journal and join me in the program for our live call this Tuesday, beautiful. I can't wait to dive into this topic with you!⠀x⠀
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Back when I decided to stop drinking, I was terrified. I truly believed that sobriety equalled a prison of misery and boredom. What a revelation to discover that it's exactly the opposite.⠀ ⠀⠀
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Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear, beautiful. What will you do with your one precious life? ❤️ x⠀

I was chatting with a beautiful soul the other day about mindset, and how so many of us don't even realise that we have a billion more negative thoughts than positive ones. ⠀
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Happy weekend, gorgeous! We're getting fancy tonight with Sour Orange Elixirs. I love the sweet & sour tang from the combination of orange, lemon and tamarind. If you prefer sweeter drinks, feel free to add more OJ and go lighter on the lemon. Either way, it's deliciously refreshing! ⠀⠀
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Mix 1/8 cup freshly squeezed orange juice + 1/8 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice + 1 tsp tamarind paste (found in Asian grocery stores and most supermarkets) in a glass until well combined. Pour half the juice mixture into a second glass. Top up both glasses with sparkling water, add ice cubes and/or candied orange peel garnish. ⠀⠀
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Throwback to this time last year, when I was power posing with the incredible @AmyCuddy! 😊 ⠀
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If you haven't seen Amy's TED Talk,

One of our gorgeous Members came up with this journal prompt and I instantly fell in love with it. Not only is it a beautiful twist on the regular Gratitude Journal, but it also helps to reinforce new (healthier!) patterns of behaviour.⠀⠀
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Because I was sober today, I watched an incredible sunrise, got a ton of stuff done, went for a long walk in the park with my love, and laughed with a friend over a smoothie.⠀⠀
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How about you? 😊x ❤⠀
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It was two years ago, almost to the day, that it happened...⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
As I walked around the river with a close friend, I shared with her how incredibly excited and relieved I was to have finally finished my first round of book editing, after months of hard work.⠀ ⠀⠀
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Just a photo of a woman in her very first pair of hiking boots. 😊

When a friend recently mentioned he was going to Scandinavia, Dom and I became inspired by the idea of new adventures (helloooo Season 2 of our Adventure Series!) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . “We have to go hiking!” Dom said when we saw photos of beautiful Norway. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .“Hiking?” I replied. “No way! There are lots of other adventures that don’t involve hiking!” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
You see, I’d been down that road before, my friend. . . . When I was about 25, a friend and I backpacked around South Africa. In one town, we booked a tour that promised to “take us to the top of the summit”. . . . . . . We thought they meant in a bus. So when the bus stopped halfway up the incline, we were flabbergasted. In our hungover state, we hadn’t read the fine print. As our guide explained that we’d be walking the rest of the way up, I’ll admit, I was PISSED.
It’d been raining the day before, so in my ridiculous shoes it was just a matter of time before I slipped over and ended up with mud all over my backside. At our lunch break, I bit into a hard-boiled lolly and broke a tooth. I was in pain and humiliated and couldn’t wait for the whole day to be over so I could sink my hangover back into another glass of wine.
So you can see why I wasn’t exactly thrilled to try it again.
When I messaged my beautiful Norwegian friend to tell her we were coming, the first thing she said was, “OMG, I can’t wait, I’ll take you to all the best hiking spots!” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
And then I remembered. I’m different now. I’m a different person, and I can absolutely become a hiker if I put my mind to it.
So here we go! Let the training begin. #9WeeksTilNorway 😊👊 x

I love this quote. It was one of my favourite mantras in my first few weeks (months!) of learning to live alcohol-free – it helped me to take the pressure off myself and feel like it was all just a normal part of the process. ⠀⠀
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It does get SO much better, hon – with time, patience, and practice. ⠀⠀
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And in the meantime, awkward's not so bad. 😉❤️x⠀

Hot peppermint tea, scrumptious little treats, fresh sheets, and a warm foot spa rich with Epsom salts and lavender essential oils are high on my agenda tonight. 😊👌 ⠀
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How are you looking after yourself today, hon? ❤️x⠀

Happy weekend! We're treating ourselves to these Frozen Mango & Cream Elixirs. They're more like a dessert, really. So deliciously decadent, you won’t believe it’s good for you. Drink any time of the day. Yup, even breakfast. Tell them I said so. ;)⠀⠀
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Blend 1 large mango (peeled, chopped into small pieces, and pre-frozen) + 1/2 cup coconut water + 1 – 2 tbsp raw maple syrup or honey (optional – you could add a squeeze of lime juice instead if you don’t have a sweet tooth) + small handful of ice, on high speed until smooth and creamy. If it gets stuck or looks too thick (like sorbet), add a little more coconut water.⠀⠀
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Divide between 2 glasses. Top each glass with a layer of coconut cream. Garnish with fresh mango slices + mint leaves. Enjoy! x⠀⠀
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