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When was the last time you did something for the first time, hon? Think back to how much fun you used to have, before hangovers came along. What did you love doing? Did you love to paint, draw, sing, dance, cook, play the guitar, scrapbook? ⠀
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Creativity feeds the soul. Embracing our creativity can not only play a huge role in overcoming destructive drinking patterns, but can be an incredibly powerful anxiety-soother. And the great news is, there are a ton of new classes popping up all over the planet every day! Take yourself on a solo date, or pull a friend along for the ride. Get reacquainted with playful, messy fun - simply for the joy of it.⠀😊
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I was chatting with a beautiful soul last week when she asked,

We've been having a powerful conversation within Sexy Sobriety this week about the difference between passion and addiction.⠀
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Once upon a time, I used to joke that I was simply

Happy weekend, angel! We're treating ourselves to these Frozen Mango & Cream Elixirs. They're more like a dessert, really. So deliciously decadent, you won’t believe it’s good for you. Drink any time of the day. Yup, even breakfast. Tell them I said so. ;) ⠀
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Blend 1 large mango (peeled, chopped into small pieces, and pre-frozen) + 1/2 cup coconut water + 1 – 2 tbsp raw agave nectar or raw honey (optional – you could add a squeeze of lime juice instead, if you don’t have a sweet tooth) + small handful of ice, on high speed until smooth and creamy. If it gets stuck or looks too thick (like sorbet), add a little more coconut water. ⠀
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Divide between 2 glasses. Top each glass with a layer of coconut cream. ⠀
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Garnish with fresh mango slices + mint leaves. Enjoy! x ⠀
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“I kept drinking more, and there was more anxiety. And the alcohol made the anxiety go away, but then sometimes the anxiety would come back even more. It was almost like a mountain of anxiety was being built underneath me… One day I looked in the mirror and it was as if the flame of my spirit was flickering. I saw this hollow shell, and I didn’t recognise myself, and I was terrified.”⠀⠀
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I loved this chat with the gorgeous Kirsten Johnson of @RicherExperiences. Several years ago, desperate for her anxiety attacks to stop, and no longer wanting to use alcohol to hide, Kirsten craved tools that would give her lasting results – to completely change the way she experienced life, including the way she related to her thinking and emotions.⠀⠀
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Her quest led her around the world and across Asia to Bali, Thailand, India, and Nepal. She sought out gurus and teachers, and studied yogic breathing techniques, transcendental meditation, relaxation techniques, Vipassana, Reiki, Tai Chi, Chi Gong and Buddhism.⠀⠀
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And finally, she found her way.⠀⠀
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“That’s what I wanted with my emotions – I wanted to control all my emotions, on demand, to be one way, and it was drunk. I wanted to be a little bit numb all the time. And then I get sober, and I’m like, ‘oh, this is what life is, this is the richness of life’.”⠀⠀
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Kirsten's is a story of finding answers and channeling her experiences into a powerful way to help others. Join us as we talk anxiety, handling emotions in a healthy way, and how to finally be comfortable in our own skin…⠀⠀
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“I have never loved harder… That’s what’s on the other side of the fear, that’s what’s on the other side of the grief, the loneliness and feeling all those emotions – I get to feel love now like I have never felt it in my entire life… and it’s me – it’s my heart – being healed…

Self-care isn't just about bubble baths and massages - it's also establishing healthy boundaries, learning to delegate so you don't feel overwhelmed, creating a sanctuary in your home so you have some breathing space to relax, nourishing your body with healthy food, finding movement you love, drinking more water, and giving yourself the gift of early nights. ⠀
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It's also taking the pressure off yourself and remembering that you don't have to do it all at once - or be everything to everyone. Baby steps; quantum leaps. ⠀
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How are you looking after yourself today, hon? x⠀
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This week I did something I never thought I'd do... I joined a gym. And as a welcome gift, they gave me a free personal training session. ⠀
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There was just one teensy problem. I've always had a strange fear of certain authority figures. Doctors, dentists, optometrists, and yup, even personal trainers. ⠀
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I'm not sure if my fear is about not knowing as much as they know, or the possibility that they might yell at me if I get it wrong, or what. As a wellness coach, you'd think I'd be well and truly over it - but alas, old belief systems die hard. ⠀
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So I was nervous before our session. ⠀
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Of course, it turned out that she was lovely, and I really enjoyed having someone to help and guide me through the workout. I loved when she held pieces of equipment for me, and really worked as my partner in the challenge. ⠀
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By the end of the session, I'd done a complete 180° and actually wanted to book her to train me long-term.⠀
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It got me thinking about support systems, and our mindset around them. Rather than thinking of these people as 'someone I pay to yell at me' (most definitely my inner child talking!) - what if I thought of them as my support team? ⠀
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There's the personal trainer, who teaches me how to exercise safely and get results.⠀
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The instructors at my yoga studio, who teach me about breathing, being present, and remembering not to take life too seriously. ⠀
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The masseuse at my local spa, who teaches me to slow down, relax, and actually allow someone else to do something for me.⠀
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The physio who helped me heal my broken toe and injured back, and taught me about the importance of daily stretching. ⠀
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Heck, even the oral surgeon who removed my wisdom teeth, and taught me a brushing technique that has healed my gums. ⠀
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Because a support team doesn't only include your family and friends - but all the people who help you to be the best YOU.⠀
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It also got me thinking about some all-too-common mindset and belief pitfalls in early sobriety (and how to avoid them!). Grab your journal and join me live for our coaching call on Tuesday, beautiful. I can't wait to dive into this topic with you! x⠀
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I remember the first time I heard someone say,

Happy weekend, gorgeous! We're getting fancy tonight with Sour Orange Elixirs. I love the sweet & sour tang from the combination of orange, lemon and tamarind. If you prefer sweeter drinks, feel free to add more OJ and go lighter on the lemon. Either way, it's deliciously refreshing! ⠀
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Mix 1/8 cup freshly squeezed orange juice + 1/8 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice + 1 tsp tamarind paste (found in Asian grocery stores and most supermarkets) in a glass until well combined. Pour half the juice mixture into a second glass. Top up both glasses with sparkling water, add ice cubes and/or candied orange peel garnish. ⠀
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Enjoy! x ⠀
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Gretchen’s story is one I’ve become so familiar with as I interview more incredible women like her, and welcome more members from around the globe to Sexy Sobriety.⠀
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So many of us found that we struggled with people pleasing, approval addiction, over-exercising, eating disorders, anxiety, and depression, before we even had the chance to pick up our first drink.⠀
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For a young girl, they’re some heavy burdens to bear! Not to mention what they do to our self-esteem and ability to really know and trust ourselves.⠀
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“Our frontal cortex isn’t fully formed until our early twenties. My addiction began at eighteen, so it’s taken me six or seven years to really become a full adult, in many ways. Like, how I process things, how I perceive myself.“⠀
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One of my favourite IIN lecturers, Daniel G. Amen, MD, Psychiatrist, founder of Amen Clinics, and one of the world’s foremost experts on applying brain imaging science to everyday clinical practice, concurs:⠀ ⠀
“If you want to be more successful in all aspects of life, you need to protect and take care of your brain… [Our] brains aren’t fully developed until about age 25. This is when the prefrontal cortex (PFC), the part of the brain that controls decision-making, judgment, forethought, focus and impulse control, among other functions, is considered fully developed.”⠀ ⠀
Gretchen recently celebrated 8+ years of sobriety and 9+ of recovery from an eating disorder. Hers is a story of not only healing, but of channelling her passions into a way to help others. Now happy and healthy, she runs @GetHealthy615, devoting her days to helping other people to find more peace, wellness, and self-love.⠀
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“Everyone told me this, and you think, ‘oh I’ve got it figured out’. But you can’t love someone else until you love yourself. And it’s so cliché, but it is SO true.”⠀
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Join us as we talk mental health, getting to the truth of who we really are, and the process of rebuilding our relationships with ourselves…⠀
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This is one of my all-time favourite mantras. Whenever I'm feeling torn about a decision - wanting to choose correctly but not sure what to do - this question prompts me to stop, reflect, breathe, and move forward from a more healthy, powerful, and loving place.⠀
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Would love forgive? Would love protect your gentle heart by maintaining healthy boundaries? Would love take the time to communicate more deeply? Would love try again?⠀
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What would love do, beautiful? ❤️ x⠀ ⠀ ⠀

Today the 11,111 th copy (!!) of #AHappierHour was ordered by another beautiful woman somewhere in the world, and it moves me beyond words to know that it's helping to inspire change. Thank you SO much for sharing your stories with me - I love reading them and cheering you on! ❤️ x ⠀
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Have you ever been to the cinema first thing in the morning? The theatres are almost empty and it feels so deliciously naughty eating popcorn for ‘brunch’, ha! 😄👌 What new adventures are you getting up to this Sunday Funday, beautiful? ❤️x

My 25-year high school reunion is coming up next month, which seriously just blows my mind. I mean, twenty-five years?! That’s nuts.⠀
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This was me, aged 17. The year I fell in love with alcohol. ⠀
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When I look at this photo now, my heart could break for that girl. I was so full of angst; so painfully shy and self-conscious. I wish I’d known how to just chill the flip out and be confident in my own skin. Instead, I gave my power away, believing that alcohol magically transformed me into the confident, outgoing girl I’d always longed to be.⠀
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It feels so different to where I am now. And yet… in 25 years, if I were to look back at a photo of myself now, what will I think of how I was at this age? I know there's a lot I'll be proud of, but what will I wish I had let go of? What will I want to tell my 42-year-old self about what truly matters, and what is a colossal waste of my precious time? ⠀
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In our live call last week, we talked about the power and beauty of decluttering our homes. Because it's true, the more organised our physical environment is, the more likely we are to feel clear-headed and more optimistic about life in general. ⠀
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What if the same were true for our emotional and energetic health? What if we practiced emotional decluttering, clearing away all the limiting beliefs, previous heartbreaks, and toxic thoughts that prevent us from moving forward? ⠀
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Would we be more confident, more forward-thinking, and more open to establishing healthier relationships with the people around us? How would it affect our positivity and energy levels, and our ability to recognise opportunities that are right in front of us? ⠀
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In other words, what would happen if we decluttered not only our physical space, but also our hearts, heads, and LIVES? ⠀
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YEP, we’re diving deep on this one!⠀
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Grab your journal and join me live for our coaching call on Monday, beautiful. I can’t wait to delve into this topic with you! x⠀
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Three and a half years on, and I swear, waking up hangover-free STILL never gets old. No waking up in last night's mascara; no checking my phone to see what idiotic things I posted on Facebook this time; no arguments with my love.
Just a simple, beautiful day filled with pancakes, decluttering, sisterly chats, and long walks in the sunshine. 😊
What are you up to this Sunday Funday, hon? ❤️x

Happy weekend, ladylove! 💚 Wrap your laughing gear around this green juice. It'll give you an incredible energy buzz throughout the night, so you can socialise and dance to your heart’s content. Better yet, it’ll have you bouncing out of bed tomorrow morning with glowing skin and zero regrets! ⠀
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Apple, Mint & Lime Elixir: juice 2 green apples + 1/2 continental cucumber + 1/2 cup baby spinach + 1/2 cup fresh mint leaves (firmly packed) + half a fresh lime. ⠀
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Enjoy! x⠀
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No sooner had we recorded this interview with one of Sexy Sobriety‘s very first Members, Maya Henry, than I came across this passage in Brené Brown’s book, Rising Strong:⠀ ⠀
“We can’t selectively numb emotions – when we numb the dark, we also numb the light. When ‘taking the edge off’ with a couple of glasses of red wine becomes a routine, our experiences of joy and love and trust will become duller, too. With less positive emotion in our lives, we are drawn to numbing. It’s a vicious cycle…”⠀ ⠀
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One of the great ironies of drinking is that it can seem like a convenient way to numb ourselves to what we perceive as ‘negative’ emotions. What we forget is that in doing so, we also numb ourselves to feeling the full spectrum of human emotion - and therefore never feel truly alive.⠀
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Three years ago, Maya knew in her heart that she was ready for change. Hers is a story of not only finding herself, but following her heart into a new career that truly lights her up. Now happy and healthy, she runs @MayaHenryHealth, devoting her days to helping other women find more peace in their daily lives.⠀
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Join us as we talk courage, clarity, connection, and discovering the gifts that had been buried there all along…⠀
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“Being sober allowed me to explore my passions. I kinda’ started that journey while I was still drinking, but it was like looking at it through the glass bottle. I could just never find enough confidence to take any major leaps, because I didn’t have the confidence in myself.⠀
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When I stopped drinking, I gained so much self-confidence and all this self-awareness, that I looked around and said, ‘I’ve been asking all these people to tell me what to do. But I’m the only one who really knows.’ So I actually quit my job, took some time off, and started a meal planning business…”⠀
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Hint: it's not the alcohol itself, hon. Go deeper. ⠀
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Usually it's that we want to FEEL (or not feel) a certain way. Loved, accepted, uplifted, relaxed, happy... ⠀
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If we become curious long enough to investigate what it is we really want to feel, we can begin to nourish ourselves with the things we truly crave, in a healthy way.⠀
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Really craving connection? Could you call a friend, or make a lunch date with a colleague?⠀
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Really craving relaxation? Could you meditate, go for a walk in nature, or run a bubble bath?⠀
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Really craving joy? Could you embark on a new creative project or adventure?⠀
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In other words, this knowledge can help us create an action plan that empowers us. We get to know ourselves and our needs better, overcome self-sabotage, and avoid transferring our cravings onto other unhealthy habits (hellooo, chocolate/social media/retail therapy).⠀
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It's a process that can take some practice (for sure!). But once we master it, we can use it for the rest of our lives to take better care of ourselves.⠀
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So what are you really craving, hon? x⠀
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