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I love this quote. It was one of my favourite mantras in my first few weeks (months!) of learning to live alcohol-free – it helped me to take the pressure off myself and feel like it was all just a normal part of the process. ⠀⠀
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It does get SO much better, hon – with time, patience, and practice. ⠀⠀
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And in the meantime, awkward's not so bad. 😉❤️x⠀

Hot peppermint tea, scrumptious little treats, fresh sheets, and a warm foot spa rich with Epsom salts and lavender essential oils are high on my agenda tonight. 😊👌 ⠀
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How are you looking after yourself today, hon? ❤️x⠀

Happy weekend! We're treating ourselves to these Frozen Mango & Cream Elixirs. They're more like a dessert, really. So deliciously decadent, you won’t believe it’s good for you. Drink any time of the day. Yup, even breakfast. Tell them I said so. ;)⠀⠀
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Blend 1 large mango (peeled, chopped into small pieces, and pre-frozen) + 1/2 cup coconut water + 1 – 2 tbsp raw maple syrup or honey (optional – you could add a squeeze of lime juice instead if you don’t have a sweet tooth) + small handful of ice, on high speed until smooth and creamy. If it gets stuck or looks too thick (like sorbet), add a little more coconut water.⠀⠀
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Divide between 2 glasses. Top each glass with a layer of coconut cream. Garnish with fresh mango slices + mint leaves. Enjoy! x⠀⠀
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I watched a powerful documentary a little while back. Called 'Drinking to Oblivion', it follows filmmaker Louis Theroux as he immerses himself in the lives of people in the grips of alcohol addiction, and the medical staff trying to help them.⠀⠀
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One woman's story in particular, broke my heart. Aurelie has struggled with a life-long pattern of heavy drinking. ⠀⠀
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During Q&A at #ThePerthWellnessFestival on Sunday (which was amazing!) a beautiful soul stood up and bravely shared the dream she had in her heart. ⠀
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She then went on to list all the reasons she hadn't started yet, and all the people she believed she had to get approval from first. As though she needed all those ducks in a row before she could take action. Like she was waiting for someone to grant her permission to take the first step to doing something she loved. ⠀
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And don't so many of us do exactly that? We can come up with a million reasons why it’s not a good time; why it’s too hard; why it has to happen later. ⠀
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But the truth is, no-one’s coming to do this for us. No-one may ever grant us permission. ⠀
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Creating a life we love is the sum of a million tiny decisions we make every single day. ⠀
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The amazing thing about 2018 is that we no longer have to wait to be 'chosen'. We can start - whatever it is that moves us - right this very moment, with no other investment but our time. ⠀
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Dream of hosting your own radio show? Why not create a Podcast? ⠀
Long to share your message on television? Launch a YouTube channel. ⠀
Passionate about helping people through writing? Start a blog.⠀
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Want to stop drinking (even though everyone around you still does)? You can go ahead and choose that too, hon. ⠀
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Just begin. Today is the perfect day to start. ❤️x⠀
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Today the 30,000th copy (!!) of #AHappierHour whizzed its way into the hands and heart of another beautiful soul somewhere in the world, and it moves me beyond words to know that it's helping to inspire change. Thank you SO much for sharing your stories (and photos!) with me - I love reading them and cheering you on - it’s my favourite part of every day! ❤ x ⠀⠀⠀
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📕💌 “ Must read! This book is a game changer. For anyone who finds alcohol is starting to have a negative impact on their lives. It's not preachy, it's just a ‘can do’. “⠀
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“ I read this book from cover to cover in one day! Even though the story was not my exact experience with alcohol, I have recognised that it has had a negative impact in my. life. I felt like I HAD to read this book and I'm so glad I did! I'm excited to make some big life and health changes. Thank you so much xx “⠀
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“ I loved this book! Once I started it I didn’t want to put it down. It was the last thing I was reading at night, and the first thing I was reading in the morning. I recommend this book! “⠀
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“ A must read for anyone questioning if there is life beyond nightly wine!!! Eye opening, honest, and entertaining! “⠀
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“ Bex Weller nails it in Sexy Sobriety. This is not a tale told from a glossed up, photo shopped, perfect personality looking down from an unachievable height - Bex Weller opens the inner door on her demons and in doing so, allows you to face your own. “ 💌📕⠀
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How good does it feel to declutter?! Every year about this time, I love to clear space, and each time I do, I inevitably discover lost treasures...⠀⠀
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Last year, as I moved my jewellery box from the top of a filing cabinet, a shiny little object fell out that I'd completely forgotten about - a silver bracelet I wore constantly in early sobriety. Engraved inside (on the part that no-one else could see, but that I knew was there) were the words: 'Stay here'. ⠀⠀
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It instantly brought back memories of how hard those first few weeks of sobriety were. I was terrified of a life without alcohol. It was all I'd ever known. I honestly believed I'd never have - or BE - fun, ever again. ⠀⠀
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I had a heap of events to attend in those first few weeks and I wore the bracelet to every single one. It helped remind me WHY I was doing this hard thing. It somehow cut through all the turmoil in my head that spouted nonsense like: 'oh what does it matter, one won't hurt'. ⠀⠀
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It acted as a symbol, reminding me of my list of reasons - of exactly WHY I wanted to be alcohol-free. ⠀⠀
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The little vision board I created on the Pinterest app on my phone acted in the same way - helping me to make meaning of the madness, and stay connected to my truth. ⠀⠀
Because, let's face it: sobriety is not for the faint of heart. It takes courage, strength, and tenacity. It's a bold act of rebellion; a commitment to growth and evolution, and all the incredible magic and beauty wrapped up with that.⠀⠀
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Having firm reasons in our minds and hearts as to WHY we're taking this journey can help immensely when it comes to keeping us inspired and on track.⠀⠀
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So how do we write - or even articulate - a list of reasons that not only act as a compass for us on this journey, but move our very souls? ⠀⠀
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I have some powerful questions and examples to help us do just that! Members, grab your journal and join me in the program for our live call this Tuesday, beautiful. I can't wait to dive into this topic with you! x ⠀⠀⠀
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I was chatting with a beautiful soul recently, when she said:⠀

Happy almost-weekend, gorgeous! Winter may be here, but that doesn't mean we can't dive into these Watermelon, Rosemary & Lime beauties. Three unique flavours combined to create a deliciously festive elixir! 🍉 ⠀
Blend 1 cup watermelon and divide juice between two glasses. Pop a rosemary sprig, a slice of fresh lime, and a couple of watermelon cubes into each glass. ⠀
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Add ice, and top up with sparkling mineral water. Enjoy! x ⠀ ⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀
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Helloooo June! It may officially be Winter here in Australia, but I'm excited about a calendar filled with lady-dates this month! Brunch catch-ups, morning runs (or walk-runs in my case, ha!), ballet at a beautiful local theatre, and even a trip to an observatory. Because, fun. ⠀
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I still think about the way I used to be when I believed I could only have fun if alcohol was involved. How my mind was always calculating, desperately trying to squeeze more booze into the night. How it broke my heart to say goodbye to drinking because I truly believed I'd never have - or be - fun, ever again. ⠀
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Turns out it was just my definition of fun that was out of whack. Because there's absolutely nothing fun about hangovers, shame, or regret. ⠀
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Sobriety is a chance to experiment and explore. To find out what truly makes us happy. ⠀
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What are some things you've always wanted to try, but haven't had the time or energy for before? Make a list, ladylove! ⠀
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Then choose one outing or activity from your list each week and DO IT. Book those tickets, enrol in that class, invite a friend to meet you at that cute lunch place. ⠀
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Redefine FUN and write your whole new story. ❤️ x⠀

When I stopped drinking, I believed self-care was simply about massages and bubble baths. To discover that it was actually about embracing my inner child and PARENTING myself, totally blew my mind.⠀
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The entire concept of true and real self-care was so foreign to me that, in early sobriety, one of my ruling mantras became:

I remember when Dom first suggested that we call our program ‘Sexy Sobriety’. It was a name that I really wasn’t sure about. I was worried it would attract all kinds of connotations and weirdness.⠀ ⠀
“It’ll be fine,” Dom assured me. “Plus, sobriety IS sexy.”⠀ ⠀
I thought about all the times I’d been drunk, and how it had made me feel like I was the most powerful seductress in the history of the Universe. ⠀
In reality, no doubt I’d looked like a drunken buffoon. ⠀ ⠀
Sobriety - being completely conscious and feeling empowered with authentic confidence - really WAS sexy. ⠀ ⠀
Many of our gorgeous #SexySobriety members have asked questions lately about love and intimacy, like: ⠀ ⠀
‘How do we get past our inhibitions when making love sober? How do we embrace the increased intimacy and vulnerability, without alcohol taking the edges off?’ ⠀ ⠀
‘Where did my libido go, and how do I get it back?’ ⠀ ⠀
And, ‘In a world that celebrates masculine energy, how do we embrace more of our femininity?’⠀ ⠀
So let’s talk about it!⠀ ⠀
Love, Sex, Intimacy and Feminine Energy. Join me as we explore libidos, hormones, body image, healing, sensuality, practicing clear communication - and most importantly - how to have a sense of humour and adventure about it all.⠀ ⠀
Members, grab your journal and join me live in the program for our call, this Monday. I can’t wait to dive into this juicy topic with you! x⠀ ⠀
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Last weekend I had the honour of being invited to the #MeetOurModernDayWomen launch event, complete with a healthy degustation brunch, gorgeous fresh floral arrangements, essential oil perfume making, a chocolatier demonstration, stunningly beautiful natural gift boxes, and copious amounts of green juice, lemon water, and kombucha.⠀
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In other words, my every event dream come true! (Jen @TheModernDayWoman_, you are amazing, and I’m still in awe!).⠀
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But the part I loved MOST was the deliciously deep conversations with other entrepreneurial women - kickass babes who are all chasing their dreams and doing incredible things in the world. ⠀
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I love these discussions so much. Time (and my nerves about meeting new people!) just fall away. I left that event feeling completely filled up; high on inspiration and connection. ⠀
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So many beautiful souls ask me: ‘What do I DO with myself, now that I’ve stopped drinking? How do I find new friends to hang out with, now that I no longer want to spend nights in bars and pubs? ’ ⠀
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And one of my favourite suggestions is to figure out what you like to do and go do that! Join groups and classes in line with your interests. ⠀
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So maybe you've always wanted to try acrobatic yoga, belly dancing, or hoola hooping. Maybe you love to paint, sing in a choir, or go for early morning hikes through the hills. Perhaps you - like me - love to have deep conversations with other entrepreneurial women.⠀
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Whatever feels super fun and exciting for you - find those groups and classes in your neighbourhood and get on board, ladylove! ⠀
You may just find that you embark on new adventures, have a ton of fun, find and bond with new friends who share your interests, and create the life and relationships you’ve always dreamed of. ❤️x ⠀
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One of the big themes that regularly pops up for our #SexySobriety Members is them noticing their relationships transform, as they do. ⠀
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They notice that, as we grow to like and trust ourselves more, people respond - they notice the change in us. They trust us more too, and our conversations and connections become that much more real, intimate, and beautiful. ⠀⠀
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Just another beautiful reminder that every other relationship in our lives flows from the one we first have with ourselves. ⠀⠀
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How can you be kinder to yourself today, hon? Where can you choose love? ⠀❤️x⠀
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After grappling with a few bouts of procrastination and self-doubt this week, I couldn't wait to dive back into @MelRobbinsLive's book, The #5SecondRule. The first time I read it, I was stunned at how such a crazy-simple concept (counting down 5-4-3-2-1 and then launching into action) helped me to spring out of bed before dawn without even the HINT of a snooze button (whaaaaaat!). ⠀⠀
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I was excited to also re-watch her TEDx talk, 'How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over'. I love how she talks about humans being hard-wired to always want to do the easy thing. And the easy thing is to stay the same. ⠀
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Isn't that just the crux of it, though?⠀⠀
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'It's too hard not to drink at social events.' Stay the same.⠀⠀
'It's too far to travel to that meet up.' Stay the same.⠀⠀
'I'm too tired/busy to go to yoga class today.' Stay the same.⠀⠀
'I'm too grumpy to meditate right now.' Stay the same.⠀⠀
'It's too scary/weird/unfamiliar.' Stay the same.⠀⠀
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And yet, we KNOW that we don't grow if we stay the same. We know that it makes us feel stagnant, stuck, frustrated, and disempowered. ⠀⠀
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What if we rebelled against that natural urge to choose the easy option? ⠀
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How would our lives change if we channelled a fire in our belly and our hearts, and refused to settle for anything less than inspired action and total transformation? ⠀⠀
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What if that had the power to change EVERYTHING? x⠀
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You're stronger than you know and you got this, hon. ❤️x⠀⠀
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Holy moly, how good are mornings when you're sober? No 3am staring at the ceiling, wondering why the hell you keep doing this to yourself. No scrambling around on the floor, trying to discover whether your phone made it home with you. No soul-destroying hangovers.⠀
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And when an inspiring woman asks you to an 8:45am coffee date, absolutely nothing standing in your way!⠀
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The gorgeous Jen McMahon is the creator of @themoderndaywoman_, currently creating a movement of passionate women to collectively advocate for the greater good and social impact of our city. I was thrilled when she invited me to be part of it and couldn’t wait to learn more. ⠀
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By some miracle, I arrived early (something that NEVER happened when I was drinking), and I got to thinking about mornings in general. ⠀
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As I looked around the hotel lobby, late-Autumn sunshine streamed through the windows, and the smell of coffee was too good to resist. Almost every table in the place was packed with people tapping away on laptops, scribbling notes over breakfast meetings, and making phone calls. People doing things, meeting people, and making things happen - and all before 9am!⠀
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It reminded me of a comment from one of our beautiful members who said: “I have time now, in the mornings, to do things. Unbelievable.”⠀
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I loved it because of the freedom it infers. That now we get to choose to start the day strong.⠀
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And when Jen invited me to her launch event - at 9:30am on a Sunday (a time slot I would NEVER have agreed to before!) - it was a whole-hearted YES!⠀
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I can’t wait to share more with you guys (especially the Perthies!) about this initiative. In the meantime, head on over to @themoderndaywoman_ for inspiring stories of women creating amazing things - in the morning and in the world. ❤️ x .

#MeetOurModernDayWomen

When I first stopped drinking, my central nervous system was a wreck. After putting it through decades of binge-drinking, I felt incredibly raw, emotional, and anxious, ALL the freaking time.⠀⠀
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Not only is our central nervous system responsible for absorbing information through the senses and controlling motor function, but also for thinking, understanding, reasoning, and emotion. Alcohol depresses this precious system, causing all manner of havoc in our brains and bodies.⠀⠀
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For years, I believed I was drinking to relax or soothe my worries away. In reality, all I was doing was inviting them back (double strength!) the next day. ⠀⠀
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Deep down, I knew that a grown woman should know how to soothe herself without falling into the bottle. But seriously, HOW?⠀⠀
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I had no idea how to deal with that shitty day at work, or cope with a comment from a loved one that really hurt. And I certainly had no clue how to sit with my emotions and just BE.⠀⠀
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In his book, In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Author Dr. Gabor Maté, writes:⠀⠀
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“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours. It is present in the gambler, the Internet addict, the compulsive shopper, and the workaholic. The wound may not be as deep and the ache not as excruciating, and it may even be entirely hidden—but it’s there.” ⠀⠀
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In another article, he writes:⠀⠀
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“Addiction essentially is trying to get something from the outside to fill a gap and soothe pain.“⠀⠀
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And if this is true - if we had formed an unhealthy relationship with the bottle in an attempt to soothe ourselves - then how do we self-soothe in a healthy way?⠀⠀
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My longing for answers led me to discover 4 powerful techniques that can help us do just that. Best of all, they're simple, easy to learn, and actually a whole lot of fun.⠀⠀
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Members, grab your journal and join me live, beautiful. I can't wait to dive into this topic with you in our coaching call this Tuesday! x ⠀⠀
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Just in case no-one else has told you this today:⠀ ⠀⠀
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You are a spectacular and uniquely beautiful soul, worthy of an incredible life. ⠀
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Every challenging moment you experience is happening to help you grow and become all you are meant to be. ⠀
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You are stronger than you know, and you got this, hon. ❤️x⠀
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Happy almost-weekend, gorgeous! This elixir is ready in a jiffy and tastes heavenly, any time of the day or night. ⠀
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Blend 1 cup frozen strawberries + 2/3 cup coconut water + 2 tbsp rice malt syrup (or raw agave nectar / pure maple syrup) + a squeeze of lime juice (for the tangy, sherbet twist), until smooth and frosty. ⠀
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Pour into a glass. Garnish with frozen strawberries, lime zest, or flecks of ginger. ⠀
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This afternoon I was skipping down the hallway, wondering why on earth I felt so great. Yesterday sure didn't feel this lovely. ⠀
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Finally I realised: ohhhh, it's because I took my butt to bed at 8pm last night. 😄⠀
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Sometimes we just need sleep to gain a whole new perspective, hon. A cat-nap, an early night, or just a little lie-in. ⠀
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Sometimes it really is that simple. ❤️ x⠀
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