But it isn’t perfect…
I’m loving the conversation in our eCourse Intensive Facebook group today (for our Founding Members who haven’t yet joined, click the link under your Welcome video to find us, beautiful).
It got me thinking about a few things, but especially about perfectionism.
I received (another) big lesson about this recently, when my latest MindBodyGreen article was published.
Now, I’m not sure what it was about this article, but writing it felt really freakin’ hard.
I wasn’t happy with the finished story, but after months of playing around with it (and much huffing and puffing), I decided to send it off anyway.
Three weeks later, just when I’d accepted that it wasn’t good enough to publish, I heard back from one of the MBG editors. She liked the idea of the piece but suggested a rewrite.
Grateful to receive a second chance, I tried again. Still, I struggled. I toiled with it for hours and hours and still wasn’t satisfied. Ugh! Why on earth was this so hard, already?!
When the editor’s deadline arrived, I felt slightly defeated and sent it off anyway.
Three weeks later, just when I’d accepted that it wasn’t good enough to publish (again), I heard back from MBG. They loved it and would publish it soon.
When I read the final piece a few weeks later, my heart sank again. Not only was I not proud of my writing, but I didn’t like the paragraph transitions that had been edited in.
I was this close to not even sharing it with my audience. All because my Ego was upset that my writing wasn’t up to scratch. Good grief!
And then the love notes started pouring in:
“Thank you for sharing . I’ve been struggling with the decision to stop drinking for a while . This was inspiring and I’m hoping 2016 is a sober year.”
“I’m age 55 and have been drinking for half of my life. I related to everything you stated.”
“Thank you for being brave and for inspiring me and others @SexySobriety.”
“Hi Bex, thanks for this – great to read, it’s amazing how much you realise your life revolves around alcohol when you begin to question it, and make that brave decision to stop.”
“This is awesome! Thanks. Great read @BexWeller.”
“@BexWeller, your piece on not having a drink for a year was truly beautiful and poignant! Thank you for writing it so right. I have 16 months. You said it so succinctly, it’s like you took the words out of my mouth. Bless you for sharing.”
So many people helped and inspired. More than 5000 shares. And all because I allowed myself to be vulnerable in two ways: to share my story, and to send my work out there even though it wasn’t ‘perfect’.
What if I’d been stuck in my perfectionism?
I shudder at the thought.
But it can be easier said than done, right? Trust me, I hear ya’, beautiful.
If you’ve been struggling with perfectionism, here are a few tips that might help:
1. Engage someone who believes in you.
Hire a Coach or Mentor, find an Accountability Partner, or confide in a trusted friend or family member. Having at least one person in your corner can help you move mountains when it all feels too hard.
2. Impose a deadline.
Write it in your calendar and stick to it. Public accountability helps. Let your intentions be known!
3. Create with the intention of it being the best work you can do.
Sometimes the work will flow, and sometimes it won’t. And that’s okay. Your passion and enthusiasm will help more people than your sentence structure ever will. Sharing our stories and standing in our truth inspires others and gives them permission to do the same.
4. Edit with the mantra: done is better than perfect.
Listen to podcasts or read interviews with the world’s best creative geniuses. They rarely claim that a piece of their work is 100% perfect. Instead, they decide that 80% of their ideal is enough for it to be launched. They understand that our time here is limited and it’s vital to their creativity to keep the energy flowing and not get stuck.
5. Release it into the world.
Wish it well and send it off. Hope for a lovely reception, but accept that not every piece will fly.
6. Focus on the next task.
The best way to feel detached from the outcome of one project? Start on another. Inspired action creates momentum. Keep moving forwards.
Remember, beautiful: the timing will never be perfect. WE will never be perfect. And we don’t have to have all of our health problems (or issues) worked out to be of help to others.
True confidence – in business and in life – comes from taking action, one small, scary step at a time.
You can do this.